Why Was This Student Only Given Community Service For Beating His Girlfriends Black & Blue?

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After reporting the abuses to school authorities, the "punishment" has been disappointing, to say the least. (TW: Physical abuse)

On July 14, a student from the University of Santo Tomas in the Philippines took to Twitter to speak up about alleged abuses from an ex-boyfriend. Twitter user Kim opened up the shocking series of tweets by saying that it was "long overdue", but that she wanted to raise awareness for other women who are going through the same thing.

Here's what we've learned from the boyfriend beating girlfriend tweets

1. Their relationship started just like any other

"Things were all great and exciting," Kim wrote. "We couldn’t keep our hands off each other. We’d go to school together, go on dates, we’d even consistently wait for each other at the end of class.

Just like any other relationship, they had their share of petty fights, but they always managed to resolve them, and Kim didn't see any red flags.

2. Then he started to get possessive and controlling

Things were going so great that Kim ended up living with him. But one day, he suddenly blew up at her for booking a Grab for her brother.

He thought that she had gone somewhere "without telling him", and even though it was the middle of the night, he demanded that she move out.

Kim did everything she could to appease him, and from that day tried to avoid doing anything that could cause his anger to flare up again. But in spite of her best efforts, he would continue getting angry at her for the smallest things — even going home to her family and spending time with her friends. He would accuse her of cheating on him, even though he was the one who couldn't keep it in his pants; Kim says he would bring girls back to his place whenever she wasn't there.

3. Then he got physical

She showed the bruises, and detailed the extent of her injuries.

4. He begged her not to go to the authorities

Obviously guilty, he asked her not to make the issue bigger because it could affect his studies and his family.

5. Kim wasn't the only victim

"That whole thread was just like reading my own diary from months before," Twitter user Gil Morales wrote.

She shared a screenshot of a conversation with the accused, who wrote, "Sarap mo bugbugin ulit. [It'd feel so good to beat you up again.]"

He also called her a "famewhore" for telling her friends about what had happened.

Gil also showed photos of her bruises, and also detailed that the accused had threatened suicide when she left him.

6. After reporting him to the school authorities, he was given community service

Being given a minor punishment for physical abuse has struck a nerve with Filipino netizens — especially considering that recently, a UST teacher was recently fired for a series of tweets protesting the administration, and a group of senior high school students were suspended for participating in protests.

When students and faculty are punished severely for merely exercising their freedom of expression, it makes one wonder why the administration would let a physical abuser off with a mere slap on the wrist.

7. Victim blaming is still very much alive

Translation: "Maybe the girl got beaten up because there's something wrong with her. Let's not judge him for now. We all know that flirty girls can really make you lose your temper." 

More accurate translation: "I'm a douche."

8. The accused hasn't exactly spoken up...

...But he had this much to say in a recent Instagram post:

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He has since made his Instagram account private.

HerStyleAsia has reached out to the accused so we can perhaps put our so-called assumptions to rest, but has yet to receive a reply.

Violence Against Women Hotlines in the Philippines

Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD)
Batasan Pambansa Complex, Quezon City
Tel. No.: (+632) 931-8101 to 07

DSWD–NCR Ugnayan Pag-asa Crisis Intervention Center
Legarda, Manila
Tel. No.: (+632) 734-8639/ 734-8654/ 734-8626 to 27

Philippine National Police (PNP)
Camp Crame, Quezon City
Tel. No.: (+632) 723-0401 to 20

PNP-Women and Children Protection Center (WCPC)
Camp Crame, Quezon City
Tel. No.: (+632) 410-3213

NBI-Violence Against Women and Children Desk (VAWCD)
Taft Avenue, Manila
Tel. No.: (+632) 523-8231 to 38 / 525-6028